On What They Should Know: A Message to Young Boys

*This is the fourth and final installment in the What They Should Know series.  Click here to read the third installment.*

image credit: hinnamsaisuyBoys, boys, boys,

You little guys sure do keep us parents on our toes. You’ve got the type of energy companies wish they could bottle and sell. Shoot, I wish I could bottle and sell it! That would be a money maker for sure.

I have to apologize for some of the things you’ve been told.  You’ve probably already heard the sayings, ” Stop crying. Be a man” and “Stop being a girl.” They give the impression that in order to be accepted and liked, in order to be a real man, you have to be hard and without emotion, and  you absolutely CANNOT–under any circumstances– be a girl (i.e. weak).

Well, take it from me, girls are not weak and neither are you. It is literally in your DNA to be strong. That’s not a metaphor. I’m being serious here. I’m talking straight up fact. As you get older and develop, you’ll see just what I mean, but for now you’ll just have to trust me.

The common representation of masculinity (look it up if you don’t understand that word) is all wrong. It focuses on the look of manliness. It tells you to be big, bad and rough, just to make sure there’s no confusion. That’s not what it means to be a man. Real men don’t use their strength to hurt others; they use it to protect. And real men understand that taking the time to build their mental muscles is just as important as building their physical ones.

Your going to come across a lot of ideas in your life, and many of them will be silly, dangerous and flat-out wrong. You’ll need to be intelligent enough to avoid those. So many young boys get off to a bad start because they follow in the footsteps of men who never fully developed. Sure, they may look like adults, but on the inside they’re no wiser than you. Is that what you want, to grow up and still have the mind of a child? Of course you don’t, and you won’t. You know better.

There may be some boys at your school who say doing your work and being smart isn’t cool. Those boys are wrong. Like, really, really wrong. If I had to take a guess, I’d say those boys don’t feel smart themselves, and so they’re trying to make you feel as badly as they do. Don’t fall for it, because in the real world, the so-called nerds are the ones making all the moves (and money).

So keep getting  (or start getting) those A’s and don’t let anyone make you feel bad for it. The future adult in you will thank you for it later. But for now, you’re a little boy. You probably like worms and race cars, and you might think girls are a little… weird. That’s fine, as long as you know they’re not weak, and neither are you.

~Nadirah Angail

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2 thoughts on “On What They Should Know: A Message to Young Boys

  1. Karima June 24, 2011 / 8:21 pm

    Love it!!! I bet your having these convo with lil man now huh:)

    • N. Angail June 26, 2011 / 9:42 am

      Yep. He’s only 2 months, but I gotta get started early. 😉

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