At the risk of sounding like a man hater (which I am not) I’ll make this statement: Many men will use you if you let them. They’re not all amoral womanizers, but when women don’t set the standard for how we should be treated, it’s a lot easier for them to become that way. I do think it’s true that men should treat women better, but I don’t believe it will happen until women begin to behave in such a way that men have no choice but to do so. People get away with as much as you allow, and as long we allow them to use our bodies and degrade our names, the weak ones will continue to do so.

Here comes the feminist voice of dissent. “Why is men’s behavior our fault? We shouldn’t have to change anything. They should.” Be assured that men’s behavior is not the fault of women. Everyone is held accountable for their own actions. But, woman have a very important role in the process of change. While women have more of an emotional nature, men have more of a visual, carnal nature. What this means is that even though men have an advantage over us in brute strength, their disadvantage is that they are often weak willed when it comes to the visual stimulation provided by us women. So it is relatively easy for us to influence them.  (Think of how much easier it is for a woman to sexually seduce a man that it is for a man to seduce a woman.) This influence is our advantage and must be used carefully and wisely. Men are the protectors and maintainers, but the best of them are those that know how to treat women, and who better to teach them that us? Ok, so let’s be clear. What am I saying, that all men are weak? Yep. That’s exactly what I’m saying. All men and women are weak, because perfection is reserved only for the Creator. We will succumb to our weaknesses, unless we know how to protect ourselves against them. Women, don’t let your attitude and overall demeanor be your weakness. Treat yourself with respect and watch everyone else follow suit.

Nadirah Angail